Current Mood 💛🙏

Evening, this is actually just a random blog post but I felt like I had to share my thoughts real quick. I was in a bad mood not too long ago and I didn’t even know where to begin with praying so I thought I should write it down in my notes on my phone and just let out how I’m feeling, and see how I feel afterwards…

“The Lord God will provide for my every need. I shouldn’t have to worry about a thing, all I have to do I pray about everything and thank him for all he has done for me so far. Bringing the necessary people into my life and removing the irrelevant people that I didn’t need in my life. Day by day my increased growth is because of Jesus Christ and I can do nothing but praise and worship him. He’s done so much for me and I am forever grateful. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.

I am the precious daughter of the most high King and I receive all the blessings and unmerited favour that he will send my way. I am too blessed to be stressed. Negativity, failure, sickness and any sort of struggle is not my portion. Wealth, health and prosperity is definitely my portion and I receive it in the mighty name of Jesus and it will continue to be around me all the days of my life.

I thank God in advance for the abundant blessing coming my way at any point and I receive them with an open heart. I love you Lord, you are my strength and comforter and I live to worship your name forever more. Thank you for what you have done for me and thank you for what you are going to do for me.”

It’s hard to say all this because sometimes I don’t know what to say or even how to say how I feel without sounding like fool. But Lord you know my heart and my true desires.

After writing all of this, no word of a lie I feel at ease. I had to remember this: “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. (Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT)

Niiiiiiight xo

Change.

The Lord has a funny way of speaking to me you know. Right now my aim is to continue working and making myself a better person. Changes are going to be made. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength! I am my own motivation, Lord Almighty is my strength and comforter. When the tough gets going, I know I can turn to The Lord to keep me focused on where I need to be.

It’s like I’ve had an epiphany and all this time away from some social networks has made me focus on what I need to work on, instead of focusing on complete jazz that isn’t even edifying my spirit one bit. It was a distraction you know, there’s only so many encouraging tweets and bible scriptures I can retweet, most of my timeline still seems to be filled with junk no matter how much I try to filter it out.

I went to a youth prayer group on the evening of 19th March 2014, it was my first time being in a church for nearly a year. No word of a lie, the spirit undeniably moved within me. The pastor was definitely speaking to me that evening and I’m thankful that I even went. For a while I have been brushing off invites to churches because I felt that I didn’t need to go and something was holding me back. Not knowing I was the one holding myself back.

This year so far has been a roller coaster and we’re not even half way through the year. Pure headache. I’m trying to handle it the best way I can. Believe me when I say things could be worse but just know I am still here because I have a purpose which I’m still yet to fulfil; God clearly is not done with me yet. I am SO thankful for how far I’ve come. I’m not where I want to be, but I’m happy I’m not where I used to be and by Gods grace I’ll get to where I need to be.

I am currently in the midst of overcoming a tough situation in my life and it takes time and I’m at peace with that. But one thing I realised which I learnt at the prayer group I went to is that I am accepting it which I need to stop doing. It’s not even a situation of ‘it is what it is’ no, dead that. I don’t have to embrace my weakness. Don’t accept it. The moment I accept my weakness it will always be a hindrance. So I just have to be careful what I embrace and accept. I am continuously being strengthened through Christ.

Thank you for reading. May God bless you and keep you xo

Why I Love High Maintenance Women

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I’ve always had a thing for high maintenance women, and if I’m honest, I believe that there should be more of them around. Contrary to popular belief, its the high maintenance type of woman that makes men work harder. Women readily complain about the lack of work in today’s modern man, and despite his efforts in obtaining a decent job and hustling day or night to sustain a decent living, they don’t seem satisfied, which in turn, leads to a natural desire for more. And as a man that loves to cater to a high maintenance woman, I support their desire for more!

Now before I continue, I want to explain my current situation. I am with a wonderful lady who was, at the earlier stage of our relationship, described by her friends as high maintenance. When those words, “high maintenance”, reached my ears, I was taken back a little…

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Where do broken hearts go?

It has been a while and I have been a tad bit quiet but I’m back with another post.

This year has been a very wild emotional roller coaster to say the least. The thoughts, feelings and emotions I have felt this year about everything have been crazy.

I’ve been in a situation where I lost my focus which was myself and what I wanted to do; and being how I am I decided to cater for the needs of others and forget about my cares and problems. Putting my all, time and emotion into something while the chances of it being reciprocated was 70:30 was a big mistake. You live and you learn though, don’t you?

I didn’t completely drop God out of my life but let’s just say I put him on the back burner of my mind and actions. I was impatient and decided that the time is now; totally ignoring Gods timing, silly me.

I can’t even lie and say I regret my involvement in this situation, but it left me emotionally broken and spiritually damaged. The one thing I had tried to avoid! It happens

Carrying someone’s burden and making them you’re priority, showing nothing but love, being a generous, considerate and kindhearted person because you want to make sure that they never feel alone in anything they are doing, that’s me all over. I put my trust into something and had their word but hey things happen and people go back on their word. Long!!
(people that are all talk no action, jarring)

I’m not even going to be bitter and say I’ll never trust or love again. Jazz. I’m not on it. Of course I want love. I love love. Love is a great feeling. I’m not going to let someone else suffer because of how people have treated me in the past. NO. Let go & let God. That’s what I’m doing.

So, “where do broken hearts go? Can they find their way home?”

Yes, they definitely can! Because of how I am personally and my relationship with God that isn’t perfect but I’m definitely working on it. I can always go back to Him because I know for sure He will never turn his back on me. I’m going home back to God because I know He’s got me no matter what. He’s been waiting, He has always been close.

I got told to check this scripture by a sister in Christ. It’s the one scripture that inspired me to write this quick post.

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. (Psalms 34:18 NLT)

Thank you for reading. Until next time; sayonara xo

Mirror Mirror

When you look at yourself in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see someone you’d like to chill with? Is it someone people would like to be around and is it a positive and encouraging influence? Do you feel like you’re ignored, unimportant or in the way?

What you discover about yourself when you take a look in the mirror is your self-image. Self-Image is how YOU see yourself and also how you feel about yourself. It’s also the starting point of how you act – towards yourself and moreover to others.

A person that has a good self-image is probably thoughtful, unselfish, polite, good-hearted, happy, outgoing and they’d probably have other similar positive attributes. Where as, if you have areas of your self-image where you are not as assertive and self-possessed, you’ll act out. There will be times where you’re feeling depressed, threatened and you also wonder why others don’t reciprocate in a positive way.

Long story short, your self-image is how you see yourself; it controls you and your behaviour. Positive self-image = Positive Attributes. Negative self-image = Negative Attributes.

I’ve been there before, I wasn’t as confident, I didn’t believe in myself either. I used to think I was a failure because I was my parents first child, I had dropped out of university and constantly had negative thoughts. I used to think I wasn’t going to amount to anything because I had no degree and didn’t know what I wanted to do in life. I used to think I wasn’t the best looking, or the smartest, I thought I was really overweight and I was really conscious of how I looked.

What I used to think and feel about myself were major attributed to how I viewed my self-image. Self-image was believing I was meant to be a certain way, true or not.

It says in the bible ‘out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks’. Continuously believing I was a failure, overweight, not intelligent, unattractive and then some; I was forced to live that way, it’s like I spoke it into existence because I thought it was true.

It got to a point that I had to be my own motivation; I had to encourage myself to want to do better and be better. I was going to amount to something. Never underestimate the power of prayer, because prayer definitely changes things for the better!

It may have taken time but I needed to realise that God’s time is the best time. I needed to love me and put myself first and show the world that!

I’ve reached that point in my life where I am happier than ever. I’m part of a company which specialises in supporting and encouraging young people through mentoring and motivational speaking and I’m also back in university studying youth justice which are BOTH in line with what I want to do career wise!

I couldn’t have done all of this if it wasn’t even for God you know. He tells me I’ve got to have faith in Him and in myself and I’ve never doubted him since.

God has surrounded me with amazing people, my WONDERFUL friends, who are more than best friends, they’re sisters; they support, encourage and are always there for me when I need them, they support me and ensure that I won’t fall, and also challenge me and keep me focused to ensure that I grow even more. They all bring me joy!

Let’s just say life is good and it’s getting better. I look in the mirror now and thank God I am not where I used to be. I’m not letting past failures haunt me and keep me from stepping out. I’m taking new risks and challenges; I am due to achieve the success I was born to achieve.

Remember: Positivity breeds happiness xo

Maximising Potential

Do you want to know what you we’re actually called to do? Do you know what your purpose is? You need to know that God has created you with great potential, but you can’t just stop there though; you need to develop your potential and do something now!

For most of my life I didn’t know what I was supposed to do in life, I didn’t know what my purpose was. I had no clue what I was actually called to do. Over the years of when I first became born-again I had prayed to God to reveal what He actually wanted me to do. God really had a destiny plan for my life and I wanted to know what it was.

It wasn’t until I went away to a Christian youth retreat in New Jersey that a female pastor had spoken to me and told me that I have the spirit of Esther, and also that I was destined to work with youth/young people as a mentor and I will counsel them and reach out to them in some sort of way.

I had no idea how I was supposed to do this or even go about it. I can’t lie, I ignored it for a while and just put it at the back of my mind. After being baptised in 2010 and dropping out of university twice, I decided that I actually needed to develop my potential and do something about it.

I now know what I am destined to do; I’ve had a few friends tell me that I was going to work with young people, to mentor, guide, give advice and counsel them. There were personal things that I have been through and I felt like I didn’t have anybody to talk to or anyone that could give me advice and comfort me when I needed it. I want to become to others, what I needed when I was going through my hardships because I know what it felt like to be alone.

Right now I am taking steps to get into that field of work; voluntary work, short courses and then some. I am aiming high to reach my full potential that God has given me and I am putting in 1000% effort and dedication.

God influences, leads us and directs us. He didn’t create us to be spectators! You may not know what your calling is but God has planned your destiny and He will help you find it.

There are so many gifted people around but they just sit there and do nothing about it. They don’t even take any steps to use the gifts and abilities God has given them because they’re in denial and think they aren’t gifted in the first place. God has given each and every one of us gifts, talents and abilities. God has something planned for ALL of us.

Till you see yourself the way God sees you and trust Him to assist you to use your gifts, you won’t live up to your God-given potential. Some of you may be struggling with low self-esteem, a poor self-image and may also lack confidence; you need to remember that God created you with remarkable potential.

When you trust God and believe you can do whatever He says you can do, you will fulfil His destiny for your life. ALL things are possible with God. When you put your confidence in Him, you will be free to live up to your potential.

I think we all know someone who is unhappy because they aren’t doing anything to develop their potential. If you want to see your potential established to its fullest, don’t wait until all is perfect. Do something now. Start laying your hand to whatever is in front of you.

You must give your potential some form by doing something with it. You will never find what you are capable of doing if you never try anything. Step out into what you feel God is directing you to do, and you will soon notice what you can and cannot do.

You are full of God-given potential, and He wants to do more through your life than you could ever imagine, but it requires your teamwork. Step out and serve Him passionately today.

Be blessed xo

Guidance in All Relationships..

From about secondary school to when I dropped out of university, I came across various different types of people. Not that I was mingling with any and every one. More time I liked to be by myself, I enjoyed my own company; BUT the people I considered ‘friends’ or even labelled them as ‘sisters’ it just turned out to be that they were nothing but poison or just not good for my soul. Some of these girls would tell me that they would always be there for me, that we’re ‘sisters for life’ lol…

You live and you learn to be honest. I opened up to these girls; my guard was down because I trusted them. It’s funny how someone you speak to, chill with and open up to you, also consider family; can then end up being a stranger. To this day I don’t have a relationship with anyone I went to secondary school, college or university with because the relationships weren’t going anywhere. They were just there for the sake of it.

 I sit here and analyse how things were back in the day and I notice my behaviour and attitude years ago. It wasn’t nice. I was rude, arrogant, ignorant and snobbish just to mention a few. Why? Because of the people I surrounded myself with. You could say I was easy influenced. The good thing is that I met a couple of people through the people I THOUGHT were my friends and now we’re closer than ever, they are my rocks and I love them with all my heart. They are family not even friends.  The ones I thought were my friends have become irrelevant to life, I don’t have anything against them at all but they aren’t benefiting my life.

I have my sisters now who I love very dearly and they are all the friends I ever need, there are a few others too that I know are reading this now that I thought I wouldn’t be very close with, they know I will ALWAYS be there for them no matter what! Not using it as an excuse, but I think it was because I didn’t have anyone around me who could teach me how to live life gracefully and not act ‘ratchet’. I didn’t have older cousins around me; most of them are in Uganda. Also I weren’t too close to the female family friends that I grew up with, felt left out in a way. Life went on.

 In Proverbs 12:26 it says ‘The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.’ When I read this I just have a flash back of the past about all the things I used to do because of the people I used to hang around. Fighting, stealing, using profanity and not acting like a true child of God. I know this isn’t the will of God and what he had planned for my life; it’s FAR from what God has planned.

I kept thinking to myself over a period of time if it’s true that I’ll become like the friends I spend time with, then I have to select my friends wisely. The friends I have now are beautiful ladies and I have changed a lot for the better and I’m still trying to better myself as the days go on.

Some people need to realise that the main quality to look for in a close friend is not how attractive, talented, wealthy, smart, influential or popular they are, you need to see how much they love and fear God. I have both friends that are believers and unbelievers; it doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t be a friend with the unbelievers.

I believe I am a tool of God so I can eventually reach out to these unbeliever friends of mine. If you don’t have close friends that are believers, PRAY for godly and desirable friends to come in your life, and/or even pray that God can be transformed. I do it every day. I want my sisters to be able to close to God, to love and fear him as well. I don’t want to force these relationships with God to happen, I’m going to continue praying for them to happen.

Here are a few good signs of a DESIRABLE friend and some scriptures that relate to them, so take time to read and meditate on the scriptures provided when you can.

A desirable friend:

-       Tells you the truth in love (Proverbs 27:6)

-       Gives you sound advice (Proverbs 27:9)

-       Refines you (Proverbs 27:17)

-       Helps you grow in wisdom (Proverbs 13:20)

-       Stays close to you (Proverbs 18:24)

-       Loves you and stands by you (Proverbs 17:17)

-       Is a help in time of trouble (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10) 

If you have friends with these particular qualities, PROTECT those friendships with prayer! Prayer is powerful, God hears you. If you have friends who don’t have as many of these qualities, then you should pray about these too.

Here are a few good signs of an UNDESIRABLE friend and some scriptures that relate to them, so take time to read and meditate on the scriptures provided when you can.

An undesirable friend:

-       Is immoral and has no regard for others (1 Corinthians 5:11)

-       Is changeable and unstable (Proverbs 24:21-22)

-       Is frequently angry (Proverbs 22)

-       Gives ungodly counsel (Psalm 1:1)

-       Is a lawless believer (2 Corinthians 6:14-15)

-       Is a fool (Proverbs 13:20)

-       Is disrespectful towards God and His laws (Psalm 119:63)

Well… if you have friends with these characteristics I suggest you ask God to send you new friends while you PRAY for your old ones to be transformed.

I ask God daily to make me a good friend to others and give me a pure and loving heart in ALL my relationships. You should do the same, especially for those that you live with. It says in the bible in Matthew 12:25 that ‘every…house divided against itself will not stand’. You can’t have peace if you’ve got qualms with people in your home.

In life we need to realise that relationships will be crucial to our well-being. The right relationships will improve and balance you and give you a healthy perception on things. Godly people will help you walk in the right direction, and the good in them will rub off on you!

The quality of your relationships will determine the quality of your life. And that is something worth praying about!!

Speaking Words That Bring Life.. #PositivityBreedsHappiness

In life, one of the areas that can cause the utmost amount of trouble has got to be our mouth. Our mouth can have us saying things we shouldn’t and hurting others without realising, which can come with great consequences. We can’t take back what we say, all we can do is say sorry and hope the person forgives us.

The best way to avoid even getting in this situation is to make sure that what we say is good and to keep GOOD THOUGHTS in our heart. Matthew 12:34 says, ‘Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks’. Evidently if we fill our heart with God’s truth and God’s love, that’s all that is going to come out. TRUTH & LOVE!

I am pretty sure most of us have been around someone who CONSTANTLY complains and speaks negatively about themselves or others around them? You might have even been that person. I can put my hand up and say I have done such at a point in my life, but it gets quite boring and tiring and it isn’t even benefiting your life or those around you. If you don’t have anything nice to say about anything or anyone, KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT! Simple.

In the bible, Philippians 2:14 to be exact, it says we are to ‘do all things without complaining and disputing.’ Constantly complaining shows that we lack faith in God. It also verifies that we don’t believe God is in charge and can take care of us. It also suggests that we don’t trust God enough to answer our prayers. It shows we aren’t even praying. Surrounding yourself with people with such an obvious lack of faith is SO draining.

Imagine if every time we opened our mouths to speak, our words were covered with encouragement, enlightenment, comfort, wisdom, love and truth. If you have your mind fixed on good things then the words of your mouth will reflect that, no?

In Philippians 4:8 it says – Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.  This scripture is telling us that our thought process should be based on these key points. You don’t see anything negative in that scripture do you? It is only positive thoughts, which enable us to speak and act positively.

Here’s eight good things to think about daily that relate to this scripture.

  1. Whatever things are true: if you think about things that are honest, genuine or truthful, then you won’t be saying anything that’s incorrect, deceitful, or untrue.
  2. Whatever things are noble: if you think about what is high quality, excellent or honourable, then you won’t be saying anything that is mean, dishonourable or low-minded.
  3. Whatever things are just: if you think about what is fair, reasonable or correct, then you won’t be saying anything that is biased, unreasonable or unfair.
  4. Whatever things are pure: if you think about that which is clean, clear or untainted, then you won’t be saying anything that is polluted, corrupted or tarnished.
  5. Whatever things are lovely: if you think about what is pleasing, charming or satisfying, then you won’t be saying anything that is unpleasant, offensive or ugly.
  6. Whatever things are of good report: if you think about what is worthwhile, positive or worthy of repeating, then you won’t be saying anything that is negative, discouraging or full of bad news, rumours, and gossip.
  7. Whatever things are virtuous: if you think about what is moral, ethical, impressive or conforming to high moral standards, then you won’t be saying anything that is unethical, immoral or self-indulgent.
  8. Whatever things are praiseworthy: if you think about what is admirable, valuable, glorified or approved of, then you won’t be saying anything that is disapproving, belittling or depressing.

We need to be wise with our words ladies and gents, especially to the ladies. The words we speak have to be gracious, we need to know when to not talk a lot, and we also need to speak the truth and so on. Just a few points below about it and how we should go about the way we speak.

When a wise woman speaks, she gives a reason for the hope that is within her. The most important words we can speak are ones that explain our faith to anyone who asks or who will listen.

When a wise woman speaks, she knows that timing is important. When things need to be said that are difficult for the hearer to receive, timing is everything. If the person isn’t listening or is not open or ready to hear, don’t talk.

When a wise woman speaks, she tells the truth. When we don’t speak the truth, we hurt others as well as ourselves. Sometimes people don’t want to hear the truth, all we can do is say nothing and pray for God to show you when a person is ready to hear the truth.

When a wise woman speaks, she doesn’t talk too much. We have to be careful that we don’t spend more time talking than necessary. We definitely have to ask God to make us wise in the amount of talking we do.

When a wise woman speaks, her words are gracious. We can’t speak words that are mean, insensitive, harsh, rude, deceitful, offensive, or arrogant without reaping the consequences. Ask God to help you find words that speak life to those around you.

Finally, let me leave you with this scripture, read it, take it in, meditate on it. Ephesians 4:29Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. This scripture is crystal clear and it explains that whatever we say has to BUILD UP and it should ENCOURAGE others, period. Speak to others how you would like to be spoken to. You wouldn’t want someone speaking down to you and bringing you down, so don’t do it to others. It says it there in the bible, so obey God’s word!

Setting Myself Free from Negative Emotions…

We all tend to overthink, and it can be quite risky. You have to see it as the past has gone, we live in the now. We have the control to make a difference on what has been.

If you knew me a few months/years back, you’d know that I was quite an emotional person. I used to live with anxiety, fear and hopelessness like it was a way of life.  I used to think nothing was going right, that I would never be genuinely happy.

Obviously I did have some happy times but it was the negative thoughts that overpowered the positive side of me. I came to my senses when I finally realised that negativity wasn’t getting me anywhere and wasn’t going to fix things in my life.

It happened when I came to know the Lord properly and started living God’s way, I began to see that ALL things are possible to anyone who believes and obeys God.

Did you know that it is possible to live without negative emotions? It actually is, and we can do this if we PRAY. God will remove all the doubt and hopelessness off of us if we ask Him to.

I’m sure there are times where we have felt like we are alone and abandoned. But the truth is we aren’t. God is ALWAYS with us when we call upon Him. We don’t have to be controlled by our negative emotions. We can actually resist these negative emotions by praying and knowing the truth of what God’s word says about them.

 Seven Good Ways to Get Free of Negative Emotions

  1. REFUSE TO BE ANXIOUS – no matter what problems we have in our life, Jesus has overcome them. What we need to know is that when we are anxious it means you aren’t trusting God to take care of you. He’ll prove His faithfulness if you run to him. (Luke 12:29-31) God also says we don’t need to be anxious about everything; we just need to pray about everything.
  2. REFUSE TO BE RULED BY ANGER – when we often give place to anger it usually shuts off all God has for us the same way pressure on a hose shuts off the water flow. You have probably seen it happen in the lives of people. Just when God is moving in the life of someone in an influential way, they give in to anger and completely shut Him off. Ask God to keep you free from anger so you can remain in the flow of all God has for you.
  3. REFUSE TO BE DISSATISFIED – it is SO easy to focus on the negative and look for everything that is wrong with your life. A continuous attitude of unrest signifies that we are never at peace, which not only leaves us feeling glum but also makes everyone around us miserable by association.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting things to be different when they need to be, BUT when that attitude becomes a way of life, we sacrifice our peace.  Remember Philippians 4:13 and meditate on this scripture when you are feeling discouraged. ‘I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me’. It is possible to find contentment, rest, peace and joy in any situation. Tell God you are making that your goal and you need Him to help you.
  4. REFUSE TO BE ENVIOUS – when you set your eyes on someone else and what THEY have instead of the Lord and what HE has, that greedy spirit invites misery and disappointment into your life. Primarily because you AREN’T that other person. DON’T allow yourself to entertain thoughts such as, “If only I had THEIR hair, THEIR face, THEIR body, THEIR clothes, THEIR talent, THEIR gifts, THEIR wealth, THEIR luck, THEIR blessings.” Turn your thoughts towards Christ instead and think about HIS beauty, HIS wealth, HIS talents, HIS nature, HIS provision, HIS help and HIS power. You have to thank Him for the rich inheritances you have in Him and let Him know you can’t wait to experience it all. We all know about the jealousy in the bible with Cain wanting what Abel had, and he killed him for it. He ended up suffering the rest of his life as a result. We don’t want to suffer for the rest of our lives because of covetousness. The price we pay for envy is way too high. Ask for God’s love to be manifested in you and through you at all times. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy. (1 Corinthians 13:4)
  5. REFUSE TO BE DEPRESSED – so many people live with depression and accept it without even noticing. I cannot deny that this used to be me as well. Although it feels natural to us because it is so familiar, God doesn’t want us to accept this as a way of life. In Psalm 119:28 it says ‘My soul melts from heaviness; strengthen me according to Your word.’ There are other scriptures that relate to depression such as Psalm 6:6-7 & also Psalm 69:20, but God doesn’t want us to live with these feelings. He wants us to have the joy of the Lord rise in us and chase away the spirits of heaviness. God wants us to cry out to Him so He can lift us out of depression.
  6. REFUSE TO BE BITTER – bitterness burns away your body and soul the way acid eats skin. When a root of bitterness takes hold of your life, it consumes you and cuts off the blessings of God. It says in Acts 8:23 ‘For I see that you are poisoned by bitterness and bound by iniquity’ we need to realise that when we constantly have negative thoughts and emotions such as bitterness it starts to grow in us like a cancer. Stop it. Don’t be bitter; be better! We can ask God to help us resist them when we finally identify these thoughts and refuse to give them a place to grow. Pray for God to set you free from any bitterness. Ask Him to give you a spirit of thankfulness, praise and worship.
  7. REFUSE TO BE HOPELESS – hopelessness is a slow killer that will in due course affect the health of your body and soul. But when you purposely choose to put your hope in the Lord, He will meet all your needs and take all the hopelessness away. Hopelessness is death to our souls; you should refuse to live with it. You need to realise that no matter how bad things appear to get in your life, you ALWAYS have hope in the Lord. Ask God to give you hope for your future and an attitude of gratefulness every day of your life.

Negative emotions reveal doubt. If we thoroughly trust God, what do we have to be anxious about?

Remember: Positivity breeds happiness!

Becoming a Forgiving Person…

Forgiveness: the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven.

Forgiveness, this is one thing that I ask God to help me with DAILY. It is the hardest thing to do, ‘easier said than done’ as some may say. But with God anything is possible. A very big part of making sure our lives are clean and right before God has to do with pardoning other people. We can never move into ALL God has for us unless we do.

I’m pretty certain that we all have someone who has done us wrong in some sort of way, and the first thing we did was just lock them off; cut off that communication barrier, blocked them out completely, deleted their existence from our memory. I know I’m guilty of that. But it’s not right, at all.

I’ve done it the past few months, I have had to ask certain people for the contact details of people that I actually disliked, had problems with, dropped out suddenly because they did me wrong. Their existence made me sick to my stomach, but I had to be mature, pray about it and eventually forgive, ask for forgiveness and just forget anything that happened.

Having an unforgiving heart blocked my blessing; a lot of things didn’t go the way I expected them to go, I wasn’t progressing the way I should have been, I felt that I was just at one dead level of life. Sounds extreme but it was true.

When we choose not to forgive, we end up walking in the dark, this is because we can’t see clearly and we stumble around in bewilderment. This throws our judgement off completely and we end up making misatakes. We become weak, sick, and bitter.

It get’s a little bit peak, when other people start to detect this; it shows in our face, words and actions. People can sense the vibe, and don’t necessarily want to be around it. When we eventually choose to forgive, it doesn’t only benefit us but also the people around us.

Forgiveness is a choice we must make everyday. I do it everyday; I always ask God to forgive me for anything that I have done that day which is not pleasing to Him. We choose to forgive whether we feel like it or not. It is a decision, not a feeling.

If we have any bitterness or unforgiveness in our hearts, it’s always our fault for not choosing to let it go. LET GO AND LET GOD. When we forgive someone, it doesn’t make him or her right or justify what he or she has done. It releases them into God’s hands so He can deal with them.

It’s our responsibility to always confess it to God and ask Him to help us forgive and keep it moving. Forgiveness is never easy, if you have a hard time forgiving someone, best piece of advice: Ask God to help you.